Category: Relationship

  • Why do Men rush into a relationship?

    Why do Men rush into a relationship?

    I often see my male friends hovering into a relationship just as if the world is supposed to end tomorrow and he has nothing to do other than wooing his lady love! At times, it seems as if there’s a race going on, and he has got to reach the target by any means. This is true even when men want to switch from one relationship to another. They are just as quick to fall in love as to get out of it. 

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    Here are a few reasons that men probably feel like, while jumping into a relationship:

    Men see women as a trophy

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    Yeah, that’s true! I agree that there are exceptions as well, but not too many men fall into that list. Men see women as a trophy that he had got to win, by hook or by crook. Think about the beginning of a relationship, men will make ends meet to hear that “Yes” from his girl, but that’s something which they fail to retain for a really long time. As the relationship goes on, they tend to go crazy over every little thing and carry out silly things for no reason just to annoy you all throughout the day. However, there’s just a few who maintain their bond over the years. 

    It’s a competition to the men

    It’s a game and that’s what men think of a relationship. Psychology say that men are too quick in making decisions, never mind even if they have to regret for it later on! Women, on the other hand, may take time but will stick to it once they have finalized it. Men don’t take much time to switch either! Research say that men, once being sure of what they want, which probably they think that are sure of but they are actually not, tend to lock it down as quickly as possible. 

    Possessiveness

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    Definitely, psychology has got a lot to do with your flow in a relationship. Men often get quick in proposing and love making, out of possessiveness. They think that once they have locked down the choice, no one else should be seeing it the next! It’s the worm in their brain that tickles every now and then. They don’t want their women to catch up with someone else, and that leads them to decide things too fast! Probably, he would ask you to come on a webcam chat right after your first date with him! 

    Lack of patience

    Men often remain in a hurry to fetch the result. They fail to understand the fact that things happen as per their own clocks. There are times when you may need to dedicate time, so as to make sure that things fall in their places. Rushing into a relationship doesn’t make any sense if you aren’t even aware of the person as a whole. Men, in this context, are too impatient! Take time, go across different popular dating platforms, talk to each other, see if you have got similarities, understand each other’s perception, and only then should you decide!

    Bottom line

    Although it’s easier said than done, it is important to understand that building a relationship takes time! Adolescence bonding is not that easy! Two people from different backgrounds and mindsets need to talk and meet with each other quite often to know each other even better. Last but not the least, it’s all in the ‘stars’. All you need is to ‘Be Yourself’ and start caring for your partner; let her feel that she is ‘damn special’ to you!

  • 6 factors to improve your love relationship

    6 factors to improve your love relationship

    In a relationship, there are determining factors to find the right balance.

    We could say that the fundamental pillars for a good relationship, be it as a couple, friendship or family, are trust, respect, good communication, empathy, and cooperation.

    Physical attraction and enjoying healthy intercourse is additional for a Romantic relationship.

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    Although the factors that favor a good relationship may seem obvious, it is worth remembering them and reflecting on them from time to time to evaluate what things we can improve.

    I summarize in this article six important points for a good relationship:

    1. Respect above all

    We all get angry from time to time, and it is normal for a couple to arise conflicts, some discussion, or conflicting opinions. It is not about never getting angry or not saying what bothers us. It is about always talking with respect to the other person. 

    Insults, threats, shouting, or devaluations are not to be tolerated in any case, as they are a form of violence that profoundly hurts. It is important to know how to manage our emotions so that anger does not dominate us. It is preferable to take time before responding or postpone the discussion to another time if we are very bothered. On the other side, we should never tolerate offenses. It is important to restrict them. Some keys to assertive communication can be helpful in these situations. This is applicable to all relationships, not only for couples.

    Disrespect can only do separation emotionally and destroy the love between two people. So respect must always be above everything.

    2. Kindness and signs of affection

    Sometimes, with time, confidence, and routine, our partners’ signs of affection and kindness are neglected. We must not forget them! We all like them to be kind and loving to us.

    A smile and a “good morning” with a kiss, saying “good night,” asking for things with a “please” and giving thanks are good habits that favor emotional closeness with our partner. And also some sincere compliments from once in a while feel great!

    It is not a matter of simple rules of courtesy, nor of being “sweethearts,” but of making life as a couple more pleasant, and showing that we respect, love, and consider the other.

    3. Be Reliable

    A very important factor in a love relationship is trust. Confidence is often manifested in small details, such as being on time for dates, remembering commitments, and keeping promises we make. 

    Be consistent between what we say and do and show our involvement in the details of everyday life. A relationship is based on mutual trust; the other person must know that they have your support and that they can trust you. 

    4. Promote good communication.

    It is not necessary to have “deep” conversations every day or always talk about our feelings and conflicts. Still, we must be careful not to go to the other extreme and that the communication in the couple does not focus exclusively on banal and usual topics.

    In addition to physical attraction, in a love relationship, it is important to have a mental connection, to feel each other; the freedom to speak about any topics, concern us the most.

    Knowing how to express assertively what we like and what not, speaking fluently about our feelings and concerns, expressing our opinions, and listen to everything, having interesting talks on various topics, all this fosters closeness and complicity with our partner.

    5. Being a “team.”

    Many of the decisions we make, directly or indirectly, end up affecting our partner. So the most logical thing would be to make a mutual agreement, as a team, and taking the other one into account. 

    When you make a habit of making decisions in a relationship, the connection between the couple gets stronger. 

    It is also essential to build faith in a team: making the same goal, sharing experiences, and solving problems together.

    It is certain, sometimes there might be differences in opinion, but despite this, it is important to make an agreement respecting the idea of each other, and to feel the other by their side (instead of feeling confronted).

    It is important to feel that your partner is “on your side,” the feeling of “being from the same team” even in the face of mistakes or troubles.

    6. Be considerate in daily life

    In daily life, you may have some habits that bother your partner and vice versa. Although they may seem an unnecessary part of life, they can gradually create conflict over time.

    For example; If your partner blames you for leaving things out of place, unwashed dishes, smoking in the bedroom, or leaving the toilet lid up. These behaviors should be appropriately maintained. These things, in the long run, can weaken the relationship of a couple. 

    It is also a sign of affection to have small positive details towards the other person in our day to day: prepare your favorite dish, leave a loving note or give encouragement if we know that a hard day awaits you, ask how the day has gone. , a back massage, etc.

    Obviously, we are talking about some habits, not personality traits or things like that. We can not pretend to “change” the other person completely, or “be another” to please our partner: what we mentioned here are little coexistence habits if we can change the partner without much effort.

    It will always be necessary to accept some things that we do not like, but making an effort to change small habits and promote good practices to improve coexistence brings us closer to our partner and makes day to day more pleasant.

    As I mentioned at the beginning, these factors are quite obvious, but it is good to remember them from time to time to evaluate what we can improve to get closer to our partner and enjoy a healthy relationship.